One-on-One Work
leadership, healing, and belonging begin within.
Awareness and Connection
Something in us all wants to cross a threshold — away from old limiting stories, liberated from the tyranny of anxiety or numbness, and into the openness to become more of what we love and long to share with the world. Learning awareness and connection enables us to grow and step forward. Troy holds a variety of brave spaces for you to recover your hidden belonging and be free to lead.
Three Invitations
Let’s admit that depth and healing might feel intimidating! And yet the juice of life and quality of presence to recover is already deep within you. Trained as an executive coach, life coach , and spiritual director these skills intersect for clients to build a client-led approach to the work. In the spectrum for one-on-one work you’ll see the range of approaches from more explicit executive coaching, toward life coaching healing resilience, and to the more intuitive approach of spiritual direction.
Transformational Leadership Executive Coaching
Career changes, reaching goals and overcoming conflict are all strengthened by coaching. Transformational Leadership looks like encountering change with mind, heart and body without giving in to barter, manipulation, or scapegoating others (or parts of the self)… Applied self-leadership looks like the freedom to structure belonging within your work culture, and freedom from fears and anxieties based on old limiting stories that our bodies have on repeat. Transformational Leadership Coaching integrates the personal and shared life of a client, with the client’s goals, desires, relationships, habits, and contemplative practices. Mangers, executives, and organizers find this one-on-one approach to be both helpful in skill building (ie: accepting feedback, overcoming immunity to change, building new habits, applied enneagram awareness) as well as building up the inner-regulated-state to be “present and in the moment” with clarity, compassion, and creative flow. TLE Coaching includes guiding questions, listening, and steps to arriving at a stated outcome.
At the center of all one-on-one work is Healing Resilience, the freedom from the authority of suffering and the freedom to become.
It all starts with the body. Depression, anxiety, and overwhelm can be the side-effects of the body blocking the loss and shame of trauma. The body’s flock, flee, fight, freeze, fawn response is a natural gift that has helped us in the past, but when you or I get stuck or committed to that response we lose touch with our hidden wholeness: the creative, confident, caring self we were born to be in the world. A contemplative, trauma-informed approach allows space for the parts of us that protect and manage loss to un-blend from the parts of ourselves that have been unseen or fight so hard to distract us from the pain. Using tools from compassionate inquiry and Internal Family Systems, this work equips clients to unburden from frozen personal obstacles as well as addressing social and systemic burdens including individualism, racism, patriarchy or abusive religion. This work is not clinical psychotherapy or a substitute for the work of a professional clinician. Healing Resilience emphasizes the body, the ability to be present, and living a whole-life.
Healing is more than reducing symptoms, it is about recovering wholeness. We are not simply freed from, but we are freed for belonging in community with friends and family and the land, to celebrate life and beauty, to grieve loss together, to organize our work with purpose and commitments, and to express an ethic of love that can bravely work with others to create the future world we desire.
Healing-Resilience Life Coaching
Less technical than leadership development, the tradition of Spiritual Direction is more intuitive. Historically offered by wisdom keepers, monastics, and clergy, Spiritual Direction is the art of holding unhurried, nonviolent, unattached space to listen for the presence of the sacred in another’s life. I’ve had various spiritual directors since 1995, and the practice is still a monthly habit in my life rhythm. One of my teachers, Jim Finley, has said that the role of the spiritual director is “to bear witness to the experience that what you are seeking is real.” Some of us seek spiritual resources to deepen our religious path to union with the divine, others may be recovering from religious trauma or seeking mindful ways to integrate everyday life with the greater whole. Spiritual direction sessions include time for prayer or meditation, and typically occur on a monthly basis. While trained in the contemplative Christian lineage (including seminary, Presbyterian ordination, and The Living School), my approach is inter-spiritual. I’ve had the privilege of companioning clients of various faiths (or non-faith), racial backgrounds, sexual orientations, and life stages.
Spiritual Direction
